Shame on him? Or shame on me?

I had a long talk with Patty Izzo at Iris Dassault's house in early June about this very topic... I get at least two to three IMs/messages/emails per day from this very same type of guy and I'm at wits end. I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I don't know why men in my field don't deal with this but it's disparaging. I'll warn you, I was a very angry person and feel that I should have handled this more calmly, but I let my frustrations get the better of me:

Average Online Boy: i saw on your website where you were looking for models...
Lisolette: sorry, im dealing with packing - leaving for vegas tomorrow at 5 am
Average Online Boy: oh...sounds like fun...well can i leave my # and if you have time later....call me?
Lisolette: i cant take it now and i dont archive messages
Lisolette: would you mind sending me a message after the 20th? :)
Average Online Boy: you dont have anything to write on?
Average Online Boy: sure...want some pics to see if i have what it takes?
Lisolette: no, i just wont find it when i get back, this place is crazy
Lisolette: and sure
Lisolette: send them to madame_lisolette@yahoo.ca
Lisolette: note .ca, not .com
Average Online Boy: your in canada?
Lisolette: no
Lisolette: long story
Average Online Boy: well how come i cant send them here? it was nude erotic modeling right? would that be starring with you???
Average Online Boy: long story? LOL i got time
Lisolette: you do, but i dont
Lisolette: im packing, as i mentioned earlier
Average Online Boy: ok...LOL sorry
Average Online Boy: well how come i cant send them here? it was nude erotic modeling right? would that be starring with you???
Lisolette: i dont have an AOL account
Lisolette: its just a username
Lisolette: and no, you re not "starring" with anyone per se
Lisolette: send me your stuff and i'll take a look
Average Online Boy: well what is the purpose of this modeling? your pleasure? or a magazine or movies or what?
Lisolette: art exhibits
Average Online Boy: do i get to see you naked also? i need something to motivate "him" to stand at attention for his pics LOL
Average Online Boy: and the pictures you want are of my "package" correct?
Lisolette: are you telling me that you cant get hard unless you see a chick naked? ever?
Average Online Boy: possibly...i mean it doesnt just get hard when the wind blows....i have to have touch...or sight or something...
Average Online Boy: eating pussy really does it for me. LOL so if i could do that and then pose for pics it would be better...
Lisolette: look, i dont necessarily need you hard, i need you to be able to follow directions
Lisolette: ugh
Lisolette: get lost
Average Online Boy: oh i can follow directions
Average Online Boy: get lost? for what? you dont like getting oral sex? believe me...me being naked in front of you would arouse you.
Lisolette: look
Lisolette: i dont take pics to get laid
Lisolette: and i'm highly annoyed about getting hit on on a constant basis
Lisolette: by people who think that because I take erotic photography means I'm gonna fuck every model
Lisolette: If you want to make some art, contact me
Lisolette: otherwise go hit on some airhead who might go for this line of bullshit
Average Online Boy: i didnt assume just because i was gonna model nude that you would fuck me....
Average Online Boy: but i would want to get to know you a bit before i just took my clothes off for you.
Average Online Boy: and i had figured that if it got to that point we might be able to do other things as well...if you know what i mean
Lisolette: that's fine, but that's not how you're conducting yourself in this conversation
Lisolette: no, i don't know what you mean
Average Online Boy: i mean that if we met and talked and clicked and were attracted prior to the photo shoot....we could maybe do things like that
Average Online Boy: and then i can recall them in my mind...to retain an erection for the shoot.
Lisolette: so you haven't had any other sexual experiences that you could recall without having to bone me?
Lisolette: is that what you are telling me?
Average Online Boy: well none that would be fresh in my head liek that
Average Online Boy: i mean if i think about my ex...right now. i dont get hard cause i cant stand the bitch...LOL
Average Online Boy: so it would have to be someone i was with recently or was currently with at that time...
Average Online Boy: i am sorry i dont work like most other men...i mean i could stand there and jerk it hard i suppose.....LOL
Lisolette: did you even look at my gallery?
Average Online Boy: but if your single...i know i am single...and i found you attractive...so.... i would want to get to know each other on a personal level possibly...before even doing the modeling thing
Average Online Boy: and yeah i did a while back..send me a link please
Lisolette: http://www.lisolette.com
Lisolette: i invite you to find a hard cock in any of the pics
Average Online Boy: lol well dont need one per say...
Average Online Boy: but it would be a nice peice...which is why i would WANT to be hard.
Average Online Boy: to be different from the rest
Average Online Boy: but you are a single female correct?
Lisolette: yes, but i'm not sure why that matters when it comes to finding models
Average Online Boy: well as i said...id like to get to know you on a personal level...i did see a pic of you in yahoo...and was like...WOW. so i wanted to further get to know you
Average Online Boy: but also if it came down to being sexual....even better...but i am sure if i modeled first...i would get the "i dont mix business with pleasure" or "i dont date clients" so i would rather be personal with you FIRST
Lisolette: i'm not interested, thank you
Average Online Boy: your not interested in having a friend or boyfriend? just a model?
Lisolette: i'm not interested in you